SACRED MASCULINITY

Indeed, many people assume that these patterns have traditionally been understood to be the building blocks of the mature masculine.
Reading this book should help you understand your strengths and weaknesses as a man and provide you with a map to the territories of masculine self-hood which you still need to explore.
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The weak or absent father cripples both his daughters’ and his sons’ ability to achieve their own gender identity and to relate in an intimate and positive way with members both of their own sex and the opposite sex.
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Two main factor to explain this crisis
But it is our belief and experience that we can’t just point in any simple way to the disintegration of modern family systems, important as this is, to explain the crisis in masculinity. We have to look at two other factors that underlie this very disintegration.
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The disappearance of ritual processes
First, we need to take very seriously the disappearance of ritual processes for initiating boys into manhood-to achieve genuine transformation of consciousness.
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Boy psychology is everywhere around us, and its marks are easy to see. Among them are abusive and violent acting-out behaviors against others, both men and women; passivity and weakness, the inability to act effectively and creatively in one’s own life and to engender life and creativity in others (both men and women); and, often, an oscillation between the two—abuse/weakness, abuse/weakness. Boy psychology is charged with the struggle for dominance of others, in some form or another. And it is often caught up in the wounding of self, as well as others. It is sadomasochistic.
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Patriarchy is the expression of the immature masculine. It is the expression of Boy psychology, and, in part, the shadow—or crazy—side of masculinity. It expresses the stunted masculine, fixated at immature levels. Patriarchy, in our view, is an attack on masculinity in its fullness as well as femininity in its fullness.
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Patriarchy is based on fear—the boy’s fear, the immature masculine’s fear—of women, to be sure, but also fear of men. Boys fear women. They also fear real men. The patriarchal male does not welcome the full masculine development of his sons or his male subordinates any more than he welcomes the full development of his daughters, or his female employees.
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Something vital is missing in the inner lives of many of the men who seek psychotherapy.
What is missing is not, for the most part, what many depth psychologists assume is missing; that is, adequate connection with the inner feminine. In many cases, these men seeking help had been, and were continuing to be, overwhelmed by the feminine.
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What they were missing was an adequate connection to the deep and instinctual masculine energies, the potentials of mature masculinity.
We found, as these men sought their own experience of masculine structures through meditation, prayer, and what Jungians call active imagination, that as they got more and more in touch with the inner archetypes of mature masculinity, they were increasingly able to let go of their patriarchal self- and other-wounding thought, feeling, and behavior patterns and become more genuinely strong, centered, and generative toward themselves and others.

The first, the most primal, of the immature masculine energies is the Divine Child.
Often, too, when a man in therapy starts to feel better, the urge comes to him, perhaps for the first time in his life, to have children.
These events are signals that something new and creative, fresh and “innocent,” is being born within him. A new phase of his life is beginning.
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When we feel this new energy manifesting within us we need to move to protect it, because it is going to be attacked.
A man may say in his therapy, “I may actually be getting better!” And right away, he may be answered by an inner voice that says, “Oh no, you’re not. You know you can never be well.”
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The most recent psychoanalytic theory suggests that people who are possessed by or identified with this “infantile” grandiosity are expressing a “narcissistic personality disorder.”;The followers of Carl Jung, however, view this Divine Child differently.
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For Jungians, this Divine Child within us is the source of life.
It possesses magical, empowering qualities, and getting in touch with it produces an enormous sense of well-being, enthusiasm for life, and great peace and joy, as it did for the young boy under the oak tree.

The High Chair Tyrant is epitomized by the image of Little Lord Fauntleroy sitting in his high chair, banging his spoon on the tray, and screaming for his mother to feed him, kiss him, and attend him.
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Characteristics of the High Chair Tyrant include arrogance (what the Greeks called hubris, or overweening pride), childishness (in the negative sense), and irresponsibility, even to himself as a mortal infant who has to meet his biological and psychological needs. All of this is what psychologists call inflation or pathological narcissism.
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Often as we men rise in the corporate structure, as we gain more and more authority and power, the risk of self-destruction also rises.
The High Chair Tyrant, through the Shadow King, may continue to be a ruling archetypal influence in adulthood. We all know the story of the promising leader, the CEO, or the presidential candidate, who starts to rise to great prominence and then shoots himself in the foot. He sabotages his success, and crashes to the earth.
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The boss who wants only yes men, who doesn’t want to know what’s going on, the president who doesn’t want to hear his generals’ advice, the school principal who can’t tolerate criticism from his teachers—all are men possessed by the High Chair Tyrant riding for a fall.
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When the High Chair Tyrant cannot be brought under control, he will manifest in a Stalin, Caligula, or Hitler—all malignant sociopaths. We will become the CEO who would rather see the company fail than deal with our own grandiosity, our own identification with the demanding “god” within. We can be Little Hitlers, but we’re going to destroy our country in the process.

The other side of the bipolar shadow of the Divine Child is the Weakling Prince.
The boy (and later, the man) who is possessed by the Weakling Prince appears to have very little personality, no enthusiasm for life, and very little initiative.
This is the boy who needs to be coddled, who dictates to those around him by his silent or his whining and complaining helplessness.
He rarely joins in children’s games; he has few friends; he doesn’t do well in school; he is frequently hypochondriacal; his slightest wish is his parents’ command; the entire family system revolves around his comfort.
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When such a reversal occurs in the boy caught in the bipolar shadow of the Divine Child, he will switch from tyrannical outbursts to depressed passivity, or from apparent weakness to rageful displays.

We need to acknowledge him, but not identify with him.
We need to love and admire the creativity and beauty of this primal aspect of the masculine Self, because if we don’t have this connection with him, we are never going to see the possibilities in life. We are never going to seize opportunities for newness and freshness.Keeps us from feeling washed up, bored, and unable to see the abundance of human potential all around us.
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The ancient Romans believed that every human baby is born with what they called his or her “genius,” a guardian spirit assigned at birth.
We want to encourage greatness in men. We want to encourage ambition. We believe that nobody really wants to be sort of gray-normal.
Everyone in a leadership capacity needs to be connected with the creative, playful Child in order to manifest his full potential and advance his cause, his company, and generativity and creativity in himself and others.
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We need to ask ourselves two questions.
The first one is not whether we are manifesting the High Chair Tyrant or the Weakling Prince but how—because we all are manifesting both to some extent and in some form. At the very least, we all do this when we regress into our Child when we are fatigued or extremely frightened.
The second question is not whether the creative Child exists in us but how we are honoring him or not honoring him. If we’re not feeling him in our personal lives and in our work, then we have to ask ourselves how we are blocking him.

His posture shows grace, poise, concentration, and self-confidence.
His face is gentle and thoughtful, but alive with an inner glow.
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The Precocious Child manifests in a boy when he is eager to learn, when his mind is quickened, when he wants to share what he is learning with others. This boy (and later, the man) wants to know the “why” of everything. He asks his parents, “Why is the sky blue?”.
Often this boy is also talented in one or more areas: he may be able to draw and paint well or play a musical instrument with proficiency.
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The Precocious Child is the origin of our curiosity and our adventurous impulses.
He urges us to be explorers and pioneers of the unknown, the strange and mysterious.
He causes us to wonder at the world around us and the world inside us.
wants to know what makes other people tick as well as what makes himself tick.
He wants to know why people act the way they do, why he has the feelings he has.
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He tends to be introverted and reflective, and he is able to see the hidden connections in things.
He can achieve cognitive detachment from the people around him long before his peers are able to accomplish this.
Though introverted and reflective, he is also extroverted and eagerly reaches out to others to share his insights and his talents with them.
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He often experiences a powerful urge to help others with his knowledge
The Precocious Child in a man keeps his sense of wonder and curiosity alive, stimulates his intellect, and moves him in the direction of the mature magician.

The bipolar Shadow of the Precocious Child, like all the shadow forms of the archetypes of the immature masculine, can be carried over into adulthood, where it causes would-be men to manifest inappropriate infantilism in their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
The Know-It-All Trickster is, as the name implies, that immature masculine energy that plays tricks, of a more or less serious nature, in one’s own life and on others.
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He is expert at creating appearances, and then “selling” us on those appearances.
He gets us to believe in him, to trust him, and then he betrays us and laughs at our misery.
The Know-It-All is that aspect of the Trickster in a boy or a man that enjoys intimidating others.
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The boy (or man) under the power of the Know-It-All shoots off his mouth a lot. He’s always got his hand up in class, not because he wants to participate in the discussion, but because he wants his classmates to understand that he is more intelligent than they are. He wants to trick them into believing that, compared to him, they are dolts.
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The boy or man under the power of the Know-It-All makes many enemies. He is verbally abusive of others, whom he regards as his inferiors.
He frequently dominates conversations, turning friendly discussions into lectures and arguments into diatribes.
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He is very good at deflating Egos, our own and those of others.
And often we need deflating. He can spot, in an instant, when, and in exactly what way, we are inflated and identified with our grandiosity.
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Even in the story of the Garden of Eden, Satan makes trouble for the sake of exposing the fraudulent and delusional nature of the supposedly “good” creation. God wanted to believe that everything he had made was good, but then, after all, he had made evil and hung it on the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil. Satan, in the form of the serpent, was determined to expose the shadow side of this “all-good” creation. He succeeded through the “fall” of Adam and Eve. Only after Satan had exposed the evil in creation—and, by implication, in the Creator—could honesty and healing begin.
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Causes a boy (or a boyish man) to have an authority problem.
Such a boy (or man) can always find a man to hate him and eventually shoot him down. He will readily believe that all men in power are corrupt and abusive.
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His energy comes from envy.
The less a man is in touch with his true talents and abilities, the more he will envy others.
If we envy a lot, we are denying our own realistic greatness, our own Divine Child. What we need to do, then, is to get in touch with our own specialness, our own beauty, and our own creativity. Envy blocks creativity.
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The Know-It-All Trickster has no heroes,
because to have heroes is to admire others. We can only admire others if we have a sense of our own worthiness, and a developing sense of security about our own creative energies.

The boy (or man) who is under the power of the other pole of the dysfunctional Shadow of the Precocious Child, the naive Dummy, like the Weakling Prince, lacks personality, vigor, and creativity. He seems unresponsive and dull. He can’t seem to learn his multiplication tables, count change, or tell time. He is frequently labeled a slow learner. In addition, he lacks a sense of humor and frequently seems to miss the point of jokes.
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He may appear to be physically inept as well. His coordination is off, so he often becomes the butt of ridicule and contempt when he fumbles the ball on the playing field or strikes out in the last of the ninth.
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This boy may also appear to be naive. He is, or seems to be, the last kid on the block to learn about the “birds and the bees.”

All the immature masculine energies are overly tied, one way or another, to Mother.
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He is passionate and has a sense of wonder and a deep appreciation for connectedness with his inner depths, with others, and with all things.
He is warm, related, and affectionate. He also expresses, through his experience of connectedness to Mother
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His sense of the mystic oneness and mutual communion of all things comes out of his deep yearning for the infinitely nurturing, infinitely good, infinitely beautiful Mother.
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The Oedipal Child’s Shadow consists of the Mama’s Boy and the Dreamer.

He causes a boy to fantasize about marrying his mother, about taking her away from his father. If there is no father, or a weak father, this so-called Oedipal urge comes on all the stronger, and this crippling side of the Oedipal Child’s bipolar Shadow may possess him.
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the Don Juan syndrome.
Something else happens to the Mama’s Boy. He often gets caught up in chasing the beautiful, the poignant, the yearning for union with Mother from one woman to another. He can never be satisfied with a mortal woman, because what he is seeking is the immortal Goddess.
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In addition, the boy under the power of the Mama’s Boy is what is called autoerotic.
He may compulsively masturbate. He may be into pornography, seeking the Goddess in the nearly infinite forms of the female body.
He is seeking to experience his masculinity, his phallic power, his generativity.
Caught up in masturbation and the compulsive use of pornography, the Mama’s Boy, like all immature energies, wants just to be.
He does not want to do what it takes to actually have union with a mortal woman and to deal with all the complex feelings involved in an intimate relationship. He does not want to take responsibility.

The other pole of the dysfunctional Shadow of the Oedipal Child is the Dreamer.
The Dreamer, however, causes a boy to feel isolated and cut off from all human relationships.
For the boy who is under the spell of the Dreamer, relationships are with intangible things and with the world of the imagination within him.
As a consequence, while other children are playing, he may sit on a rock, dreaming his dreams.
He accomplishes little and appears withdrawn and depressed.
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What this boy really shows, in a roundabout way, is his pique at failing to achieve possession of the Mother. His grandiosity in seeking to possess the Mother lies hidden under the Dreamer’s depression.

generally assumed that the heroic approach to life, or to a task, is the noblest, but this is only partly true.
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The Hero is, in fact, only an advanced form of Boy psychology—the most advanced form, the peak, actually, of the masculine energies of the boy, the archetype that characterizes the best in the adolescent stage of development.
Yet it is immature, and when it is carried over into adulthood as the governing archetype, it blocks men from full maturity.
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If we think about the Hero as the Grandstander, or the Bully, this negative aspect becomes clearer.

The boy (or man) under the power of the Bully intends to impress others.
His strategies are designed to proclaim his superiority and his right to dominate those around him. He claims center stage as his birthright.
If ever his claims to special status are challenged, watch the ensuing rageful displays!
He is not a team player. He is a loner. He’s a hot-shot junior executive, salesman, revolutionary, stock market manipulator.
Here was a young fighter pilot, highly motivated, who would listen to no one, a young man who had something to prove, a grandstander, who, though creative, took dangerous risks
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These attacks against others are aimed at staving off recognition of his underlying cowardice and his deep insecurity.
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The Hero’s downfall is that he doesn’t know and is unable to acknowledge his own limitations.
The man who is possessed by the Grandstander Bully pole of the Hero’s Shadow has an inflated sense of his own importance and his own abilities.
The hero begins by thinking that he is invulnerable, that only the “impossible dream” is for him, that he can “fight the unbeatable foe” and win.
As is the case with the other immature masculine archetypes, the Hero is overly tied to the Mother. But the Hero has a driving need to overcome
A boy or a man under the power of the Shadow Hero cannot really realize that he is a mortal being. Denial of death.

shows an extreme reluctance to stand up for himself in physical confrontations.
He will usually run away from a fight, perhaps excusing himself by claiming that it is more “manly” to walk away.
But he will feel wretched in spite of his excuses. It is not only physical fights he will avoid, however.
He will tend to allow himself to be bullied emotionally and intellectually as well.
someone else is demanding or forceful with him, the boy under the power of the Coward—and unable to feel heroic about himself—will cave in.
He will easily acquiesce to pressure from others; he will feel invaded and run-over, like a doormat.
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When he has had enough of this, however, the hidden grandiosity of the Grandstander Bully within him will erupt and launch a violent verbal and/or physical assault upon his “enemy,” an assault for which the other is totally unprepared.
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What the Hero does is mobilize the boy’s delicate Ego structures to enable him to break with the Mother
and face the difficult tasks that life is beginning to assign him.
The Hero energies call upon the boy’s masculine reserves, which will be refined as he matures, in order to establish his independence and his competence, for him to be able to experience his own budding abilities,
The Hero enables the boy to begin to assert himself and define himself as distinct from all others, so that ultimately, as a distinct being, he can relate to them fully and creatively.
It encourages him to dream the impossible dream that might just be possible after all, if he has enough courage.
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We need a great rebirth of the heroic in our world. Every sector of human society,
Only a massive rebirth of courage in both men and women will rescue the world.
Against enormous odds, the Hero picks up his sword and charges into the heart of the abyss, into the mouth of the dragon, into the castle under the power of an evil spell.
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The “death” of the Hero is the “death” of boyhood, of Boy psychology.
And it is the birth of manhood and Man psychology.
The “death” of the Hero in the life of a boy (or a man) really means that he has finally encountered his limitations.
He has met the enemy, and the enemy is himself.
He has met his own dark side, his very unheroic side. He has fought the dragon and been burned by it; he has fought the revolution and drunk the dregs of his own inhumanity.
He has overcome the Mother and then realized his incapacity to love the Princess.
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boy’s or man’s encounter with true humility.
True humility, we believe, consists of two things. The first is knowing our limitations. And the second is getting the help we need.
we will push ourselves up against our limitations. We will adventure to the frontiers of what we can be as boys, and from there, if we can make the transition, we will be prepared for our initiation into manhood.

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It is enormously difficult for a human being to develop to full potential.
The struggle with the infantile within us exerts a tremendous “gravitational” pull against achieving that full adult potential.
We need to build, brick by brick, toward the goal of mature masculinity, until at last we can stand on the high platform at the top, surveying our realm as “Lord of the Four Quarters.”
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There are a number of techniques we can use in this construction project.
Analysis of dreams, the re-entering and changing of our dreams, active imagination (in which the Ego, among other things, dialogues with the energy patterns within, thereby achieving both differentiation from and access to them), psychotherapy in a variety of forms, meditation on the positive aspects of the archetypes, prayer, magical ritual process with a spiritual elder, various forms of spiritual discipline, and other methods are all important to the difficult process of turning boys into men.
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The boy energies also overlap and inform each other,
The Divine Child naturally gives rise to the Oedipal Child. Together they form the nucleus of whatever will be beautiful, energetic, related, warm, caring, and spiritual in the man. The boy’s Ego needs the Precocious Child’s perceptiveness to help it to distinguish itself from these energies.
And all three give rise to the Hero, which breaks them free of the domination of the “feminine” unconscious, and establishes the boy’s identity as a separate individual.
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Our Egos are like the chair of the board.
And the board members are the archetypes within us. Each needs to be heard from. Each needs to stand on its own and provide its input. But the whole person under the supervision of the Ego needs to make the final decisions in our lives.
Let us frankly admit the enormous difficulty of our situation, for it is only when we allow ourselves to see the seriousness of any problem and to admit what it is we are up against that we can begin to take appropriate action, action that will be life-enhancing for us and for others.
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There’s a saying in psychology that we have to take responsibility for what we’re not responsible for.

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Many things in our world need destroying—corruption, tyranny, oppression, injustice, obsolete and despotic systems of government, corporate hierarchies that get in the way of the company’s performance, unfulfilling life-styles and job situations, bad marriages.
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And in the very act of destroying, often the Warrior energy is building new civilizations, new commercial, artistic, and spiritual ventures for humankind, new relationships. When the Warrior energy is
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When the Warrior is connected with the King, the man accessing these powers is consciously stewarding the “realm,” and his decisive actions, clarity of thinking, discipline, and courage are, in fact, creative and generative.
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The Warrior’s interface with the Magician archetype is what enables a man to achieve such mastery and control over himself and his “weapons.”
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It is what allows him to channel and direct power to accomplish his goals.
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His admixture with the Lover energy gives the Warrior compassion and a sense of connectedness with all things.
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The Lover is the masculine energy that brings a man back into relatedness with human beings, in all their frailty and vulnerability.
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The Lover makes the man under the influence of the Warrior compassionate at the same time that he is doing his duty.
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When, however, the Warrior is operating on his own, unrelated to these other archetypes, the results for the mortal man accessing even the positive Warrior (the Warrior in his fullness) can be disastrous.
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we have said, the Warrior in his pure form is emotionally detached; his transpersonal loyalty radically relativizes the importance of a man’s human relationships. This is apparent in the Warrior’s attitude toward sex.
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Women, for the Warrior, are not for relating to, for being intimate with. They are for fun. We’ve all heard the marching chant,
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Even if he has a family, the human warrior’s devotion to other duties often leads to marital problems. The story of the lonely and rejected serviceman’s wife is one we’ve seen time and time again in the movies. We need only recall Gordo Cooper’s estrangement from his wife, Trudy, as portrayed in the movie The Right Stuff. This same thing occurs outside the military as well, in the relationships and families of men whose professions call for a great deal of transpersonal devotion and long hours of disciplined work and self-sacrifice. Ministers, doctors, lawyers, politicians, dedicated salespeople, and many others often have emotionally devastating personal lives. Their wives and girlfriends often feel alienated and rejected, competing hopelessly with the man’s “true love,” his work.
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Ministers, doctors, lawyers, politicians, dedicated salespeople, and many others often have emotionally devastating personal lives.
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Their wives and girlfriends often feel alienated and rejected, competing hopelessly with the man’s “true love,” his work.
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The Shadow Warrior: The Sadist and the Masochist The Warrior energy’s detachment
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The Shadow Warrior: The Sadist and the Masochist The Warrior energy’s detachment from human relationships leads to real problems, as we’re suggesting. These
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Though detachment in itself is not necessarily bad, as we’ve said, it does leave the door open to the “demon” of cruelty.
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Because he is so vulnerable in this area of relatedness, the man under the influence of the Warrior needs urgently to have his mind and his feelings under control—not repressed, but under control.
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The Warrior as avenging spirit comes into us when we are very frightened and very angry.
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Along with this passion for destruction and cruelty goes a hatred of the “weak,” of the helpless and vulnerable (really the Sadist’s own hidden Masochist).
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Far too often, the drill sergeant’s motives are the motives of the sadistic Warrior seeking to humiliate and violate the men put in his charge.
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It may seem at first unlikely, but the sadistic Warrior’s cruelty is directly related to what is wrong with the Hero energy;
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The Shadow Warrior carries into adulthood the adolescent insecurity, violent emotionalism, and the desperation of the Hero as he seeks to make a stand against the overwhelming power of the feminine, which always tends to evoke the masochistic, or cowardly, pole of the Hero’s dysfunctional Shadow.
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The man under the influence of the Shadow Warrior’s bipolarity, unsure of his legitimate phallic power, is still battling against what he experiences as the inordinately powerful feminine and against everything supposedly “soft” and relational.
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there is a particular personality type that has this energy “in spades,” as we say. This is the compulsive personality disorder. Compulsive personalities are workaholics, constantly with their noses to the grindstone.
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They have a tremendous capacity to endure pain, and they often manage to get an enormous amount of work done. But what is driving their nonstop engines is deep anxiety, the Hero’s desperation.
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They have a very slim grasp on a sense of their own worthwhileness. They don’t know what it is they really want, what they are missing and would like to have.
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These are the ministers, social workers, and therapists, the doctors and lawyers, who work literally day and night trying to plug the physical and psychological holes in other people, sacrificing their own lives for the sake of “saving” others. In the process, they really do a lot of harm—both to themselves and to those others who can’t measure up to their impossible standards.
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In the course of his therapy he discovered the self-destructive power of his compulsiveness and how it worked to alienate him from others. And he resolved
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If we are not secure enough in our own inner structure, we will rely on our performance in the outer world to bolster our self-confidence.
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The man who becomes obsessed with “succeeding” has already failed. He is desperately trying to repress the Masochist within him, yet he is already displaying masochistic and self-punishing behaviors.
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The Masochist is the passive pole of the Warrior’s Shadow, that “pushover” and “whipped puppy” that lies just beneath the Sadist’s rageful displays.
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The Masochist projects Warrior energy onto others and causes a man to experience himself as powerless.
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The man possessed by the Masochist is unable to defend himself psychologically; he allows others (and himself) to push him around, to exceed the limits of what he can tolerate and still keep his self-respect, not to mention his psychological and physical health.
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It may be that we don’t know when to quit an impossible relationship, a circle of friends, or a frustrating job.
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If we are under the power of the Masochist, we will take far too much abuse for far too long and then explode in a sadistic outburst of verbal and even physical violence.
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Accessing the Warrior
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If we feel that we are not in touch with the Warrior, however, we will be possessed by his passive pole. We will be cowardly masochists. We will dream but not be able to act decisively to make our dreams come true.
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We will lack vigor and be depressed.
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We will lack the capacity to endure the pain necessary for the accomplishment of any worthwhile goal.
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If we are in school, we won’t get our assignments done; we won’t get our papers written. If we are in sales and we are assigned a new territory, we’ll sit and stare at the map and the list of all the contacts we need to make and not be able to pick up the phone and start calling.
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We will look at the task ahead and be defeated before we start.
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we all need to ask ourselves not if we are possessed by one or both poles of their shadow systems, but in what ways we are failing to access properly the masculine energy potentials available to
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If we are accessing the Warrior appropriately, we will be energetic, decisive, courageous, enduring, persevering, and loyal to some greater good beyond our own personal gain.
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If we are accessing the Warrior in the right way, we will, at the same time that we are “detached,” be warm, compassionate, appreciative, and generative.
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If we are accessing the Warrior in the right way, we will, at the same time that we are “detached,” be warm, compassionate, appreciative, and generative. We will care for ourselves and others. We will fight good fights in order to make the world a better and more fulfilling place for everyone and everything. Our war-making will be for the creation of the new, the just, and the free. 7.
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If we are accessing the Warrior in the right way, we will, at the same time that we are “detached,” be warm, compassionate, appreciative, and generative. We will care for ourselves and others. We will fight good fights in order to make the world a better and more fulfilling place for everyone and everything. Our war-making will be for the creation of the new, the just, and the free. 7. The MAGICIAN
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The energies of the Magician archetype, wherever and whenever we encounter them, are twofold.
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The Magician is the knower and he is the master of technology.
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Furthermore, the man who is guided by the power of the Magician is able to fulfill these Magician functions in part by his use of ritual initiatory process.
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He is the “ritual elder” who guides the processes of transformation, both within and without.
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The human magician is always an initiate himself, and one of his tasks is to initiate others.
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The Magician is an initiate of secret and hidden knowledge of all kinds.
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All knowledge that takes special training to acquire is the province of the Magician energy.
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Whether you are an apprentice training to become a master electrician and unraveling the mysteries of high voltage; or a medical student, grinding away night and day, studying the secrets of the human body and using the available technologies to help your patients; or a would-be stockbroker or a student of high finance; or a trainee in one of the psychoanalytic schools, you are in exactly the same position as the apprentice shaman or witch doctor in tribal societies.
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You are spending large amounts of time, energy, and money in order to be initiated into rarefied realms of secret power.
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Historical Background It is thought by some
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And there is the magician—the holy man, the witch doctor, the shaman. Whatever his title, his specialty is knowing something that others don’t know.
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He knows, for instance, the secrets of the movements of the stars, the phases of the moon, the north-south swings of the sun. He knows when to plant and when to harvest, or when the herds will arrive next spring. He can predict the weather. He has knowledge of medicinal herbs and poisons. He understands the hidden dynamics of the human psyche and so can manipulate other human beings, for good or ill.
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He is the one who can effectively bless and curse.
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He understands the links between the unseen world of the spirits--the Divine World—and the world of human beings and nature.
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It is to him that people go with their questions, problems, pains, and diseases of the body and the mind.
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He is the one who can think through the issues that are not obvious to other people.
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He is a seer and a prophet in the sense not only of predicting the future but also of seeing deeply.
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This secret knowledge, of course, gives the magician an enormous amount of power.
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And because he has knowledge of the dynamics of energy flows and patterns in nature, in human individuals and societies, and among the gods—the deep unconscious forces—he is a master at containing and channeling power.
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The legendary Egyptian magician Imhotep (ca. 2800 B.C.E.) is credited with important discoveries in medicine, engineering, and other sciences.
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One aspect of the magician’s knowing, of his seeing into the depths not only of nature but of human beings, was
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to deflate the arrogance, especially of kings, but also of any important public official.
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The Magician archetype in a man is his “bullshit detector”; it sees through denial and exercises discernment.
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In ancient times when a king became possessed by his angry feelings and wanted to punish a village that had refused to pay its taxes, the magician, with measured and reasoned thinking or with the stabbing blows of logic, would reawaken the king’s conscience and good sense by releasing him from his tempestuous mood.
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The court magician, in effect, was the king’s psychotherapist.
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Merlin, King Arthur’s magician, functioned much the same way for him.
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Merlin frequently guides Arthur and, in effect, works to initiate him into appropriate ways of accessing the King energy.
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The result is that Arthur grows into fuller and fuller masculine maturity at the same time that he becomes a better king.
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In late antiquity, coming out of the ancient Greek mystery religions and given new life by early Christianity, there was a movement called Gnosticism.
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They were really proto-depth psychologists. They taught their initiates how to discover their own unconscious motives and drives, how to thread their way through the treacherous darkness of human delusions, and how, finally, to reach oneness with the Center that lies deep within.
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Acquiring knowledge of whatever kind, but especially of the hidden workings of the psyche, is difficult and painful work that most of us have never wanted to do.
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This tradition of secret knowledge resurfaced in the Middle Ages in Europe as “alchemy.”
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spiritual technique for helping the alchemists themselves achieve insight, self-awareness, and personal transformation—that is, initiation into greater maturity.
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It is interesting to realize that our modern science, like the work of the ancient magicians, is also divided into two aspects. The first, “theoretical science,” is the knowing aspect of the Magician energy. The second, “applied science,” is the technological aspect of the Magician energy, the applied knowledge of how to contain and channel power.
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Magician energy is not doing so well in the area of personal growth and transformation.
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Two sciences—subatomic physics and depth psychology—still do the work of the ancient magicians in a holistic way that brings together the material and the psychological sides of the Magician energy.
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Each seeks to know and then to at least partially control the very wellsprings of the same hidden energies the ancients probed so profoundly.
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The same is true of depth psychology. Jung, as he was making his first maps of the unconscious, was struck by the similarities between what he was discovering about the energy flows and the archetypal patterns in the human psyche and the quantum physics of, among others, Max Planck. Jung realized that he had stumbled onto a vast world that modern people had largely neglected, a world of living images and symbols that rose and fell like the waves of energy that seemed to account for our material universe. These archetypal realities, hidden in the deep void of the collective unconscious, seemed to be the building blocks of our thoughts and feelings and of our habitual patterns of behaviors and reactions, our macroworld of personality. For Jung, this collective unconscious looked very much like the unseen energy fields of the subatomic physicists, and to Jung both of these looked a lot like the mysterious underlying “pleroma” described by the Gnostics.
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The conclusion of both modern physics and depth psychology is that things are not what they seem. What we experience as normal reality—about ourselves and nature—is only the tip of an iceberg that arises out of an unfathomable abyss.
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Knowledge of this hidden realm is the province of the Magician, and it is through the Magician energy that we will come to understand our lives with a degree of profundity not dreamed of for at least a thousand years of Western history.
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There is another area in our modern world in which the psychological and spiritual knowledge and energy-channeling of the Magician archetype are being revived. This is the area of the so-called occult.
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mostly at night, in which they seek initiation into “higher planes.” They contact what they call “entities” who teach them how to see more deeply and how to use the power that becomes available to them for good and for ill.
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For all ritual process and for all deep knowing and controlling of energies of any kind, the issue of “sacred” space arises.
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Sacred space is the container of raw power—the “step-down transformer” that insulates and then channels the energies that are drawn into it.
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There is a fascinating story in the Bible about this issue of containment and sacred space. King David and his army have recaptured the Ark of the Covenant—a sort of portable “generating station” for the power of Yahweh—from the Philistines. They are transporting it back to Jerusalem when the oxen pulling the cart with the Ark on it stumble. The Ark starts to go over. A soldier, walking beside the cart, instinctively reaches up and touches the Ark to steady it. He’s immediately killed, because only the priests, the magicians, trained in the knowledge of how to handle the “reactor core” of the power of God, can touch it. They know the secret of insulation; they know how to contain and channel Yahweh’s power on earth.
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With subatomic physics, all too often we have discovered belatedly that our knowledge and technology of containment have been inadequate. The Soviet disaster at Chernobyl is the most dramatic and the most unfortunate example.
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The same thing has occurred in psychotherapy. Often, a therapist who has not been properly initiated and is not sufficiently adept himself—and is still an “apprentice” in some vital ways—sets off forces in the analysand that neither of them can contain.
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This issue of containment is one that has arisen time and time again in the context of group therapy, especially in the “encounter groups” of the sixties and seventies. Too often, neither the group participants nor the group leader had any real understanding of the forces that could be released.
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The same thing happens at rock concerts, from time to time. The musicians invoke aggressive and volatile emotions in the audience, and then, if they are not accessing the Magician well enough, they are unable to contain and channel the energy. The audience becomes violent
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The Magician in His Fullness
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The Magician energy is the archetype of awareness and of insight, primarily, but also of knowledge of anything that is not immediately apparent or commonsensical.
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It is the archetype that governs what is called in psychology “the observing Ego.”
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Its proper role is to stand back and observe, to scan the horizon, to monitor the data coming in from both the outside and the inside and then, out of its wisdom—its knowledge of power, within and without, and its technical skill in channeling—make the necessary life decisions. When the observing Ego is aligned with the masculine Self along an “Ego-Self axis,” it is initiated into the secret wisdom of this Self. It is, in one sense, a servant of the masculine Self. But in another sense, it is the leader and the channeler of this Self’s power. It is, then, a vital player in the personality as a whole. The observing Ego is detached from the ordinary flow of daily events, feelings, and experiences. In a sense, it doesn’t live life. It watches life, and it pushes the right buttons at the right times to access energy flows when they are needed. It is like the hydroelectric dam operator who watches his gauges and his computer screens for building pressures on the dam’s surfaces and then decides whether or not to release water through the sluices.
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Its proper role is to stand back and observe, to scan the horizon, to monitor the data coming in from both the outside and the inside and then, out of its wisdom—its knowledge of power, within and without, and its technical skill in channeling—make the necessary life decisions.
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When the observing Ego is aligned with the masculine Self along an “Ego-Self axis,” it is initiated into the secret wisdom of this Self.
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The observing Ego is detached from the ordinary flow of daily events, feelings, and experiences.
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In a sense, it doesn’t live life. It watches life, and it pushes the right buttons at the right times to access energy flows when they are needed.
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The Magician archetype, in concert with the observing Ego, keeps us insulated from the overwhelming power of the other archetypes. It is the mathematician and the engineer in each of us that regulates the life functions of the psyche as a whole.
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It knows the enormous force of the psyche’s inner dynamics and how to channel them for maximum benefit.
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It knows the unbelievable force of the “sun” within, and it knows how to channel that sun’s energy for maximum benefit.
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Many human magicians, in whatever profession or in whatever walk of life (occult practitioners as well), are consciously using their knowledge and technical proficiency for the benefit of others as well as themselves. Doctors, lawyers, priests, CEOs, plumbers and electricians, research scientists, psychologists, and many others are, when they are accessing the Magician energy appropriately, working to turn raw power to the advantage of others.
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The Magician energy is present in the Warrior archetype in the form of his clarity of thinking, which we’ve already discussed in some detail. The Magician alone does not have the capacity to act. That is the Warrior’s specialty.
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But he does have the capacity to think.
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Whenever we are faced with what seems like an impossible decision in our daily lives—who to promote in the company when there are difficult and complex political considerations to be taken into account, how to deal with our son’s lack of motivation in school, how to design a particular home so as to meet both the clients’ specifications and the city codes, how much to reveal to an analysand about the meaning of his dreams when we see him headed for a crisis, even how to budget in tight financial circumstances—whenever we do these things, make these decisions, with careful and insightful deliberation, we are accessing the Magician.
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The Magician, then, is the archetype of thoughtfulness and reflection.
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And, because of that, it is also the energy of introversion.
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What we mean by introversion is not shyness or timidity but rather the capacity to detach from the inner and outer storms and to connect with deep inner truths and resources.
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Introverts, in this sense, live much more out of their centers than other people do.
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The Magician energy, in aiding the formation of the Ego-Self axis, is immovable in its stability, centeredness, and emotional detachment. It is not easily pushed and pulled around.
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What we think he was reporting was sudden access to the Magician energy, an energy whose detached “knowledge” of various possible outcomes and understanding of lines of force (of containment and channeling) could help him, through technical proficiency, make the best of a bad situation.
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Often, in difficult situations people are drawn into some kind of space and time frame that can be called “sacred,” because it is so different from the space and time we normally experience.
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This “sacred” space is something men who are guided by the Magician know well. These men may actually put themselves into that “space” deliberately, much like ritual magicians who draw their magic circles and recite their incantations.
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They enter this space by listening to certain musical pieces, by tending to a hobby, by taking long walks in the woods, by meditating on certain themes and mental pictures, and by many other methods.
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When they enter this sacred space within they can be in touch with the Magician; they can emerge from the inner space seeing what they need to do about a problem and knowing how to do it.
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That primordial Magician in men has manifested itself most fully in what anthropologists refer to as the shaman.
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The shaman in traditional societies was the healer, the one who restored life, who found lost souls, and who discovered the hidden causes of misfortune.
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He was the one who restored wholeness and fullness of being to both individuals and communities.
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The Magician, and the shaman as his fullest human vessel, aims at fullness of being for all things, through the compassionate application of knowledge
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The Shadow Magician:
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The Manipulator and the Denying “Innocent” One
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It was the Shadow Magician that handed us in the darkest days of World War II, not only the technology of the death camps, but also the doomsday weapon that still hangs over all our heads.
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We need only to think about the mushrooming problem of toxic wastes poisoning and blighting our planet’s environment.
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The active pole of the Shadow Magician is, in a special sense, a “power Shadow.” A man under this Shadow doesn’t guide others, as a Magician does; he directs them in ways they cannot see.
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His interest is not in initiating others by graduated degrees—degrees that they can integrate and handle—into better, happier, and more fulfilled lives.
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Rather, the Manipulator maneuvers people by withholding from them information they may need for their own well-being.
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There are, no doubt, many medical specialists who are genuinely interested in their patients’ well-being. But many of these men will not tell their patients important details about what is wrong with them.
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Furthermore, the soaring costs of medicine—especially of exotic equipment and procedures—testify to the greed not only for power (the power that secret knowledge brings its possessor) but also for material wealth that men possessed by the Manipulator fall victim to.
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These men are using their secret knowledge for their own purposes first and only secondarily, if at all, for the benefit of others.
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The growing complexity of law and the coded language of legal proceedings and documents—whatever else they may be intended for—clearly proclaim to the general public, “We in the legal profession have access to hidden knowledge that can make or break you.
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And after we’ve charged you an outrageous fee for our services, you may, or may not, benefit from our magic.” Too often, as well, in the
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And after we’ve charged you an outrageous fee for our services, you may, or may not, benefit from our magic.” Too often, as well, in the consulting room, the therapist will withhold information that the client needs in order to get better and will subtly, or not so subtly, communicate to the client, “I am the keeper of great wisdom and secret knowledge, a wisdom and a knowledge you need in order to become well. I have it. Try to get it from me.
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The man under the power of the Manipulator not only hurts others with his cynical detachment from the world of human values and his subliminal technologies of manipulation, he also hurts himself.
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This is the man who thinks too much, who stands back from his life and never lives it.
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He is afraid to live, to “leap into battle.”
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He can only sit on his rock and think. The
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He can only sit on his rock and think. The years pass. He wonders where the time has gone. And he ends by regretting a life of sterility. He is a voyeur, an armchair adventurer.
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In his fear of making the wrong decision, he makes none. In his fear of living, he also cannot participate in the joy and pleasure that other people experience in their lived lives.
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If he is withholding from others, and not sharing what he knows, he eventually feels isolated and lonely.
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A number of years ago there was a Twilight Zone story about a man possessed by the Shadow Magician in this way. This man loved to read, and believed himself to be superior to his fellow human beings. He rebuffed others’ attempts to get to know him and to get him to share his rather considerable knowledge.
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Whenever we are detached, unrelated, and withholding when what we know could help others, whenever we use our knowledge as a weapon to belittle and control others or to bolster our status or wealth at others’ expense, we are identified with the Shadow Magician as Manipulator. We are doing black magic, damaging
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Whenever we are detached, unrelated, and withholding when what we know could help others, whenever we use our knowledge as a weapon to belittle and control others or to bolster our status or wealth at others’ expense, we are identified with the Shadow Magician as Manipulator. We are doing black magic, damaging ourselves as well as those who could benefit from our wisdom.
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The passive pole of the Magician’s Shadow is what we are calling the Naive, or “Innocent”
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The “Innocent” One is a carryover from childhood into adulthood of the passive pole of the Precocious Child’s Shadow—the Dummy.
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The man possessed by the “Innocent” One wants the power and status that traditionally come to the man who is a magician, at least in the societally sanctioned fields.
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But he doesn’t want to take the responsibilities that belong to a true magician. He does not want to share and to teach. He does not want the task of helping others in the careful, step-by-step way that is a necessary part of every initiation. He does not want to be a steward of sacred space.
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He doesn’t want to know himself, and he certainly doesn’t want to make the great effort necessary to become skilled at containing and channeling power in constructive ways.
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He wants to learn just enough to derail those who are making worthwhile efforts.
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blocks others and seeks their downfall.
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Whereas the Trickster plays his tricks in part for the sake of revealing the truth, the “Innocent” One hides truth for the sake of achieving and maintaining his own precarious status.
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While the Trickster aims at the necessary deflation of our grandiosity, the Shadow Magician, as both Manipulator and “Innocent” One, works at deflating us when such deflation is not only unnecessary but harmful as well.
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The “Innocent” One’s underlying motivations come from envy of those who act, who live, who want to share. Because the man possessed by the “Innocent” One is envious of life, he is also afraid that people will discover his lack of life energy and throw him off his very wobbly pedestal.
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His detachment and his “impressive behavior,” his deflating remarks, his hostility toward questions, even his accumulated expertise, are all designed to cover his real inner desolation and hide his actual lifelessness and irresponsibility from the world.
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hides his hostile motives behind an impenetrable wall of feigned naïveté.
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They do not allow us to engage them frontally with our Warrior energy. They parry our attempts to confront them, thus keeping us off balance by seducing us into an endless process of questioning our own intuitions about their behavior.
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If we challenge their “innocence,” they will often react with a show of tear-jerking bewilderment and leave us to stew in our own juices.
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We may even feel ashamed of ourselves for having attributed base motives to them and conclude that we must be paranoid.
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But we will not be able to escape the uneasy feeling that we have been manipulated.
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Accessing the Magician
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If we feel that we are out of touch with the Magician in his fullness, we will be caught in the dishonest and denying passive pole of his Shadow.
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In this case, we will not have much sense of our own inner structure, of our own calmness and clearheadedness. We won’t have a sense of inner security, and we won’t feel that we can trust our thinking processes.
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We won’t be able to detach from our emotions and our problems. We’re likely to experience inner chaos and to be vulnerable to outside pressures that will push and pull us in many different directions. We will act in a passive-aggressive way toward others, but claim to be innocent of any ill intentions.
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One of the hardest things to do as a counselor or therapist is to get clients to separate their Egos from their emotions without at the same time repressing the emotions.
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There is a really good psychological exercise for doing this that can help; it’s called focusing, originated by Eugene Gendlin.
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We ask our clients, when they sense the onset of strong emotions—strong fear, envy, anger, despair—to sit down in an “observation” chair and as the feelings come up imagine placing them in a stack in the middle of the room.
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Each one should be placed on the stack carefully, and we can sit back and watch the feeling—its color, its shape, and the nuances of its emotional tones.
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We ask our clients to watch their feelings—not judging them or putting them down but, rather, observing them.
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If the feelings are in the middle of the room, where the Ego can see them, they are not being repressed.
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Then, when the force of the feelings has passed, we ask our clients to banish them.
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What this exercise does is help the client strengthen his connection with the Magician energy. It is the Magician that watches and thinks.
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It is the Magician that enables the Ego to place the feelings in an orderly stack.
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in order to contain and to channel primal emotions.
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If we are accessing the Magician appropriately we will be adding to our professional and personal lives a dimension of clearsightedness, of deep understanding and reflection about ourselves and others, and technical skill in our outer work and in our inner handling of psychological forces.
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we need to mix with the Magician the King’s concern for generativity and generosity, the Warrior’s ability to act decisively and with courage, and the Lover’s deep and convinced connectedness to all things. We will then be using our knowledge, our containment, and our channeling of energy flows for human benefit and, perhaps, for the enhancement of the whole planet.
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8. The LOVER
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The Elephanta Caves, on an island in the Arabian Sea just off the coast of Bombay, India, are a spectacular sight even from a distance. These are the original “Temples of Doom” of Indiana Jones fame.
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The ancient Greeks had a god, Priapus, whose phallus was so large he had to carry it ahead of him in a wheelbarrow. The Egyptians honored the god Osiris in the form of the djed pillar. In their traditional fertility festivals, the Japanese still dance with huge artificial phalluses that are intended to evoke the procreative powers of nature.
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The erect penis is, of course, a sexual symbol. But it is also a symbol of the life-force itself. For ancient peoples, blood was the carrier of spirit, energy, the soul.
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And when the blood stood the penis erect, it was incarnating spirit into flesh. The life-force—always divine—was entering the profane world of matter and of human life.
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The result of this union of the human and the divine, of the world and God, was always creative and energizing. From this union new life and new forms, new combinations of opportunities and possibilities, were born.
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There are many forms of love. The ancient Greeks spoke of agape, nonerotic love, what the Bible calls “brotherly love.” They spoke of eros both in the narrow sense of phallic or sexual love and in the wider sense of love as the bonding and uniting urge of all things. The Romans spoke of amor, the complete union of one body and soul with another body and soul.
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are the living expression of the Lover energy in human life.
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We believe that the Lover, by whatever name, is the primal energy pattern of what we could call vividness, aliveness, and passion.
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It lives through the great primal hungers of our species for sex, food, well-being, reproduction, creative adaptation to life’s hardships, and ultimately a sense of meaning, without which human beings cannot go on with their lives.
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The Lover’s drive is to satisfy those hungers.
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It expresses what Jungians call the “sensation function,” the function of the psyche that is trained in on all the details of sensory experience, the function that notices colors and forms, sounds, tactile sensations, and smells.
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The Lover also monitors the changing textures of the inner psychological world as it responds to incoming sensory impressions.
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The Lover in His Fullness
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The Lover is the archetype of play and of “display,” of healthy embodiment, of being in the world of sensuous pleasure and in one’s own body without shame.
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Thus, the Lover is deeply sensual—sensually aware and sensitive to the physical world in all its splendor.
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His sensitivity leads him to feel compassionately and empathetically united with them.
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For the man accessing the Lover, all things are bound to each other in mysterious ways.
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It isn’t just that the Lover energy sees the world in a grain of sand. He feels that this is so.
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Perhaps even more remarkable, the boy reported that he could feel what it was like to be the lichen on the trees and the cool, damp moss on the fallen logs. He experienced the hunger, and the joy, the suffering and the satisfaction, of the whole animal and plant world. This boy was, in our view, accessing the Lover in a powerful way. He was instinctively empathizing with the world of things around him. Perhaps he was really feeling, as he believed he was, the actual experiences of those things.
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We believe that the man accessing the Lover is open to a “collective unconscious,” perhaps even vaster than that which Jung proposed.
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This idea that there is a universal consciousness is reflected in Obe Wan Kanobe of the Star Wars series, who is deeply sensitive to and empathic toward the whole of his galaxy and feels any subtle changes in “the Force.”
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The Lover energy has immediate and intimate contact with this underlying “oceanic” connectedness.
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Along with sensitivity to all inner and outer things comes passion.
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The Lover’s connectedness is not primarily intellectual. It
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The Lover’s connectedness is not primarily intellectual. It is through feeling.
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Being close to the unconscious means being close to the “fire”—to the fires of life
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The man under the influence of the Lover wants to touch and be touched. He wants to touch everything physically and emotionally, and he wants to be touched by everything.
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He recognizes no boundaries. He wants to live out the connectedness he feels with the world inside, in the context of his powerful feelings, and outside, in the context of his relationships with other people.
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Ultimately, he wants to experience the world of sensual experience in its totality. He has what is known as an aesthetic consciousness. He experiences everything, no matter what it is, aesthetically. All of life is art to him and evokes subtly nuanced feelings. The nomads of the Kalahari are Lovers. They are aesthetically attuned to everything in their environment. They see hundreds of colors in their desert world, subtle nuances of light and shadow and shades of what to us are simply browns or tans. The Lover energy, arising as it does out of the Oedipal Child, is also the source of spirituality—especially of what we call mysticism. In the
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He has what is known as an aesthetic consciousness. He experiences everything, no matter what it is, aesthetically.
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The Lover energy, arising as it does out of the Oedipal Child, is also the source of spirituality—especially of what we call mysticism.
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the Lover energy, through the mystics, intuits the ultimate Oneness of all that is and actively seeks to experience that Oneness in daily life, while it still dwells in a mortal, finite man.
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While feeling the pain and the poignancy of the world, he feels great joy as well. He feels joy and delight in all the sensory experiences of life. He may know, for example, the joy of opening a cigar humidor and smelling the exotic aromas of the tobaccos. He may also be sensitive to music. He may feel exquisitely the eerie thrumming of the Indian sitar, the swelling of a great symphony, or the ascetic thunk of an Arab clay drum.
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Writing may be a sensuous experience for him.
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Even highly abstract thoughts, like those of philosophy, theology, or the sciences, are felt through the senses.
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The man profoundly in touch with the Lover energy experiences his work, and the people on the job with him, through this aesthetic consciousness. He can “read” people like a book.
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He is often excruciatingly sensitive to their shifts in mood and can feel their hidden motives.
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The Lover is not, then, only the archetype of the joy of life. In his capacity to feel at one with others and with the world, he must also feel their pain.
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Other people may be able to avoid pain, but the man in touch with the Lover must endure
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He feels the painfulness of being alive—both for himself and for others.
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We all know that love brings both pain and joy.
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The man under the influence of the Lover does not want to stop at socially created boundaries. He stands against the artificiality of such things.
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His life is often unconventional and “messy”—the artist’s studio, the creative scholar’s study, the “go
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The Lover energy is thus utterly opposed—at least at first glance—to the other energies of the mature masculine.
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His interests are the opposite of the Warrior’s, the Magician’s, and the King’s concerns for boundaries, containment, order, and discipline.
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Cultural Background
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In the history of our religions and the cultures that flow from them, we can see this pattern of tension between the Lover and the other archetypes of the mature masculine.
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Christianity, Judaism, and Islam—what are called moral, or ethical, religions—have all persecuted the Lover.
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Christianity has taught more or less consistently that the world—the very object of the Lover’s devotion—is evil,
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Following the ancient Hebrew practice, the Church also persecuted psychics and mediums, people who along with artists and others live very close to the image-making unconscious, and, hence, to the Lover.
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Archetypes cannot be banished or wished away. The Lover crept back into Christianity in the form of Christian mysticism, through romantic and sentimental pictures of a “sweet Jesus, meek and mild,” and through the hymnal.
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In Islam women have been notoriously depreciated and oppressed. Islam is a religion of Warrior energy asceticism.
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What ways of life manifest the Lover most clearly? There are two primary ones—the artist (broadly defined) and the psychic. Painters, musicians, poets, sculptors, and writers are often “mainlining” the Lover. The artist is well known to be sensitive and sensual.
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Artists’ personal lives are typically, perhaps stereotypically, stormy, messy, and labyrinthine—full of ups and downs, failed marriages, and often substance abuse. They live very close to the fiery power of the creative unconscious.
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In a similar way, genuine psychics also live in a world of sensations and “vibrations,” of deeply felt intuitions. Their conscious awareness, like that of the artist, is extraordinarily open to invasion from other people’s thoughts and feelings and from the murky realm of the collective unconscious.
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They seem to move in a world behind or beneath the world of daylight common sense.
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From this hidden world they receive, often in the form of almost audible words, gusts of strong feelings, unaccounted-for smells, sensations of heat and cold not accessible to others, images of great horror and beauty, and clues about what is really going on with people.
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They may even receive impressions about the future. All those men who are successfully “reading” cards, tea leaves, and palms are accessing the Lover, who binds all things together under the surface, who even binds the future with the present.
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The businessman who has “hunches” is also accessing the Lover. So are we all when we have premonitions and intuitions about people, situations, or our own future.
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In those moments, the underlying unity of things is revealed to us, even in mundane ways, and we are drawn into the Lover energy, which connects us with realities of which we are not normally aware.
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Any artistic or creative endeavor and almost every profession, from farming to stockbroking, from house painting to computer software designing, is drawing upon the energies of the Lover for creativity.
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So are connoisseurs, those men who really appreciate fine foods, wines, tobaccos, coins, primitive artifacts, and a host of other material objects.
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The connoisseur of rich coffees, of chocolates; the antique dealer who cherishes a Ming vase, turning it over and over in his hands—the Lover is expressing himself through them all.
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The minister whose sermons are animated by images and stories, who is, as the Native Americans said, “thinking with his heart” instead of only with his head, is accessing the Lover.
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The Lover is singing through his sermons. All of us, when we stop doing and just let ourselves be and feel without the pressure to perform, when we “stop to smell the roses,” are feeling the Lover.
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Of course, we feel him strongly in our love lives. In our culture, this is the main avenue most of us have for getting in touch with the Lover.
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Through our emotional and physical union with her, we are transported into a Divine World of ecstasy and pleasure, on the one hand, and pain and sorrow, on the other.
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The whole world looks and feels different to us, more alive, more vivid, more meaningful, for better and for worse. This is the work of the Lover.
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The Shadow Lover: The Addicted and the Impotent Lover A man living in either pole of
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possessed by the very energy that could be a source of life and well-being for him, if accessed appropriately.
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As long as he is possessed by the Shadow Lover, however, the energy works to his destruction and to the destruction of others
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The most forceful and urgent question a man identified with the Addicted Lover asks is: “Why should I put any limits on my sensual and sexual experience of this vast world, a world that holds unending pleasures for me?”
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The primary and most deeply disturbing characteristic of the Shadow Lover as Addict is his lostness,
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becomes literally lost in an ocean of the senses, not just “in sunsets,” or “in reverie.”
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Pulled first one way and then another, he is not the master of his own fate. He becomes the victim of his own sensitivity. He becomes enmeshed in the world of sights, sounds, smells, and tactile sensations.
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We can think here of the painter Van Gogh, who got lost in his paint and canvases and in the violent dynamism of the nighttime stars he depicted.
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One man had a love for vintage cars that exceeded his income. He was lured on and on—“lost” in their glistening beauty, oblivious to the drain on his finances until the day “harsh reality” came knocking, and he discovered he was bankrupt.
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There are stories of so-called addictive personalities—people who can’t stop eating, or drinking,
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This lostness shows up, too, in the way that the Addict lives for the pleasure of the moment only and locks us into a web of immobility from which we cannot escape.
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it’s what the Hindus talk about as maya—the dance of illusion, the intoxicating (addictive) dance of sensuous things that enchants and enthralls the mind, catching us up in the cycles of pleasure and pain.
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What happens when we are caught in the fires of love, roasting in the agony and the ecstasy of our own longings, is that we are unable to disincarnate, to step back, to act.
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We are unable to, as we say, “come to ourselves.” We are unable to detach and to gain distance from our feelings.
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Many are the lives that are ruined because people cannot extricate themselves from destructive marriages and relationships.
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Whenever we feel ourselves caught in an addictive relationship, we had better beware, because the chances are very good that we have become victims of the Shadow Lover.
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In his lostness—within and without—the victim of the active pole of the Shadow Lover is eternally restless. This is the man who is always searching for something.
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has an insatiable hunger to experience some vague something that is just over the next hill. He is compelled to extend the frontiers not of knowledge (for that would be liberating for him) but of his sensuality, no matter what the cost to the mortal man who badly needs, as all mortal men do, merely human happiness.
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Here’s where we see the Don Juan syndrome, and where we can touch base with the monogamy/promiscuity issue again.
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Monogamy (though not in a simple way) can be seen as the product of a man’s own deep rootedness and centeredness.
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He is bounded, not by external rules but by his own inner structures, his own sense of his masculine well-being and calm, and his own inner joy.
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But the man moving from one woman to another, compulsively searching for he knows not what, is a man whose inner structures have not yet solidified.
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Because he himself is fragmented within, and not centered, he is pushed and pulled around by the illusory wholeness he thinks is out there in the world of feminine forms and sensual experiences.
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This is another way of talking about what ancient religions called idolatry.
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The addicted Lover unconsciously invests the finite fragments of his experience with the power of the Unity, which he can never experience. This shows up, again, in the interesting phenomenon of pornography collections.
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The restlessness of the man under the power of the Addict is an expression of his search for a way out of the spider’s web.
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The man who is possessed by the web of maya is twisting and turning, frantically struggling to find a way out of the world. “Stop the world. I want to get off!”
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What the Addict is seeking (though he doesn’t know it) is the ultimate and continuous “orgasm,” the ultimate and continuous “high.”
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This is why he rides from village to village and from adventure to adventure. This is why he goes from one woman to another.
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Psychologists talk about the problems that stem from a man’s possession by the Addict as “boundary issues.”
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For the man possessed by the Addict, there are no boundaries. As we’ve said, the Lover does not want to be limited.
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This is exactly what the Addict prevents us from doing. It stands opposed to boundaries.
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But boundaries, constructed with heroic effort, are what a man possessed by the Addict needs most.
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He doesn’t need more oneness with all things. He’s already got too much of that. What he needs is distance and detachment.
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We can see, then, how the Shadow Lover as Addict is a carryover from childhood into adulthood of the absorption into the Mother of the Mama’s Boy. The man under the power of the Addict is still within the Mother, and he’s struggling to get out.
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taboo—the Addict, arising as he does out of the Mama’s Boy, must learn about the usefulness of boundaries the hard way. He must learn that his lack of masculine structure, his lack of discipline, his resulting affairs, and his authority problems will inevitably get him into trouble.
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What happens if we feel that we are out of touch with the Lover in his fullness? We are then possessed by the Impotent Lover.
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We will experience our lives in an unfeeling way. We will “feel” the sterility and flatness the accountant reported.
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describe symptoms that psychologists call “flattened affect”—lack of enthusiasm, lack of vividness, lack of aliveness.
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We will feel bored and listless. We may have trouble getting up in the morning and trouble going to sleep at night. We may find ourselves speaking in a monotone. We may find ourselves increasingly alienated from our family, our co-workers, and our friends. We may feel hungry but lack an appetite. Everything may begin to feel like the passage in the biblical book of Ecclesiastes that declares, “All is vanity, and a striving after wind,” and, “There is nothing new under the sun.” In short, we will become depressed. People who are habitually possessed by the Impotent Lover are chronically depressed.
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They feel a lack of connection with others, and they feel cut off from themselves. We see this in therapy often. The therapist will be able to tell from the expression on the client’s face or from his body language that some feeling is trying to express itself. But if we ask the client what he is feeling, he will have absolutely no idea. He may say something like, “I don’t know. I just feel there’s this kind of fog. Everything is just hazy.”
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This often happens when the client is getting too close to really “hot” material. What happens then is that a shield goes up between the conscious Ego and the feeling.
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That shield is depression. This disconnection can
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That shield is depression. This disconnection can reach serious proportions known to psychology as “dissociative phenomena,” a condition in which (among other things) the client may start speaking about himself in the third person. Instead of saying, “I feel” this or that, he will say, “John feels this.”
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He may have a sense of himself as unreal. His life may seem like a movie that he is watching. These men are seriously, and dangerously, possessed by the Impotent Lover.
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The zest for life is gone. The Lover seems nowhere to be found. Pretty soon these older men stop fixing meals for themselves. They feel that there is nothing to live for. The Bible says that “without a vision, the people perish.”
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It is specifically without the imaging and visioning of the Lover that people perish.
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But it isn’t just the lack of a vision that signifies the oppressive power of the Impotent Lover in a man’s life. It is also the absence of an erect and eager penis.
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Such sexual inactivity may stem from any number of factors—boredom and lack of ecstasy with his mate, smoldering anger about his relationship, tension and stress on the job, money worries, or the sense of being emasculated by the feminine or by the other men in his life.
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In conjunction with the Impotent Lover, this man is either regressed into a presexual Boy or he is mainlining either the Warrior or the Magician, or a combination of the three.
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His sexual and sensual sensitivity has been overwhelmed by other concerns.
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As his sexual partner becomes more demanding, he withdraws even further into the passive pole of the Lover’s Shadow.
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At this point, the opposite pole of the archetypal Shadow may “rescue” him by propelling him into the Addict’s quest for the perfect satisfaction of his sexuality beyond the mundane world of his primary relationship.
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Accessing the Lover
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we are appropriately accessing the Lover, but keeping our Ego structures strong, we feel related, connected, alive, enthusiastic, compassionate, empathic, energized, and romantic about our lives, our goals, our work, and our achievements.
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sense of meaning—what we have been calling spirituality.
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It is the Lover who is the source of our longings for a better world for ourselves and others.
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He it is who is the idealist, and the dreamer.
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He is the one who wants us to have an abundance of good things.
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The King, the Warrior, and the Magician, as we’ve suggested, harmonize pretty well with each other. They do so because, without the Lover, they are all essentially detached from life. They need the Lover to energize them, to humanize them, and to give them their ultimate purpose—love.
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The Lover needs them as well. The Lover without boundaries, in his chaos of feeling and sensuality, needs the King to define limits for him, to give him structure, to order his chaos so that it can be channeled creatively. Without limits, the Lover energy turns negative and destructive. The Lover needs the Warrior in order to be able to act decisively, in order to detach, with the clean cut of the sword, from the web of immobilizing sensuality.
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The Lover needs the Warrior to destroy the Golden Temple, which keeps him fixated. And the Lover needs the Magician to help him back off from the ensnaring effect of his emotions, in order to reflect, to get a more objective perspective on things, to disconnect—enough at least to see the big picture and to experience the reality beneath the seeming.
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The trouble with most of us is not that we feel too much passion, but that we don’t feel our passion much at all.
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We don’t feel our joy. We don’t feel able to be alive and to live our lives the way we wanted to live them when we began.
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But let us not surrender our lives! Let us find the spontaneity and joy of life inside ourselves. Then not only will we live our lives more abundantly, but we will enable others to live, perhaps for the first time in their lives.
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Conclusion: Accessing the Archetypal Powers of the Mature Masculine
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Let us nurture and welcome great individuals—individual men who will, with the benevolence of ancient kings, the courage and decisiveness of ancient warriors, the wisdom of magicians, and the passion of lovers, move energetically to take up the challenge of saving a world that has been cast down before us.
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Our effectiveness in meeting these challenges is directly related to how we as individual men meet the challenges of our own immaturity.
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How well we transform ourselves from men living our lives under the power of Boy psychology to real men guided by the archetypes of Man psychology will have a decisive effect on the outcome of our present world situation.
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Techniques
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The first step in doing this, for each of us, is critical self-appraisal.
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We have said that there is no use asking ourselves if the negative or shadow sides of the archetypes are showing up in our lives. The realistic, honest question we need to ask is how they are manifesting.
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Let us remember that the key to maturity, to moving from Boy psychology to Man psychology, is to become humble, to be grasped by humility.
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Let us recall that true humility consists of two things: the first is knowing our limitations, and the second is getting the help we need.
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Assuming that we all could use some help, we now look at four important techniques for accessing the positive resources we are missing in our lives.
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Active Imagination Dialogue
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the conscious Ego enters into dialogue with various unconscious entities, other focused consciousnesses, other points of view, within us.
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Behind these different points of view, sometimes in obscure ways, lie the archetypes—in both their positive and their negative forms.
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Two thousand years ago, Paul, in great frustration, asked himself the question, “Why do I do the things I don’t want to do; and the very things I want to do, I can’t?”
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And, when the scene, whatever it is, is over, we say to ourselves, “I don’t know what came over me!”
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What came over us, what changed our planned words and behaviors, is what psychology calls an autonomous complex,
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and behind it what we are calling a pole in a bipolar archetypal Shadow.
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It pays to face these rebellious and often negative energy forms before they make us say and do things we regret.
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Active imagination dialogue is one important technique for actually holding conversations, board meetings, conference calls with these energy forms that wear our faces but are timeless and universal.
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In active imagination dialogue we talk with them, contacting one or more of them and giving our point of view. Then we listen for their replies.
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Often, it is best to do this on paper, writing both the Ego’s thoughts and feelings and the “opponent’s” thoughts and feelings just as they come, without censoring them.
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Under extremely hostile circumstances, we need to reach a simple truce, if possible, at least for the time being. At a minimum, this kind of exercise will help us to scope out the opposition and get most of the cards on the table.
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This exercise may seem strange at first. But usually just a few moments of writing will reveal the reality of the other points of view within every man’s psyche. It may happen that you draw a blank at first. But if you persist in talking to yourself, eventually you will be answered.
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One word of caution: if in the course of this exercise you encounter a really hostile presence, what some psychologists call an inner persecutor, stop the exercise and consult a good therapist.
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If you suspect you will run into one of these, it is best to invoke a positive archetypal energy form before you even open the dialogue.
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One more note: you may get in touch with more than one other point of view. Treat the dialogue, then, as a board meeting, and listen to what everybody has to say.
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What follows is an example of an active imagination dialogue exercise. The man who had this dialogue with one of his complexes (the Trickster) had been having a lot of trouble at work because he found himself unable to contain his critical comments—most of which were based on accurate observations—about management’s incompetence.
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He found himself ridiculing his boss in front of his fellow employees; he was unable to make it to work on time, and was unable to contain his restlessness and disgust in meetings, occasionally in direct one-on-one confrontations with his supervisor. The following is what happened when he sat down to try to get in touch with whatever was causing him to behave this way. (E stands for Ego, and T stands for Trickster.) E: Who are you? [Pause] Who are you? [Pause] What do you want? [Long pause] Whoever you are, you’re getting me in trouble. T: Isn’t that interesting? E: Oh, so there is someone there. T: Don’t be a smart ass. Of course there’s someone here. I wish I could say the same for you. The lights are on, but nobody’s home! E: What do you want with me? T: Well, let me think about it. [Pause] You know what I want, you idiot. I want to make your life miserable. E: Why? T: Why? [mockingly] Because it’s fun. You think you’re so cool. Just imagine if you got fired! Boy, that would be fun! E: Who are you? T: My name isn’t important. What’s important is that I’m here. E: Why do you want to make my life miserable? Why is that fun for you? T: Because you deserve a miserable life. I’m miserable. E: Why are you miserable? T: Because of what you’ve done to me. E: Me done to you?! T: Yeah, you jerk. E: What have I done to you? T: You don’t care about me, so don’t pretend that you do. E: I do care. I want to care. T: Yeah, because you’re uncomfortable. E: That’s right. You and I have to settle things between us. T: No, we don’t. You just have to get fired. E: I won’t let you get me fired. T: Just try to stop me!
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T: You put down your real feelings about things—all of your feelings. You’re a wimp. I am your feelings, your real feelings. I want to be angry sometimes, and I want to be really glad! And you just wimp around, acting superior. Any superiority you have is in me. I’m the real you! E: I want to be your friend. And…I need you to be mine. You are not me. I have my own point of view, and I need you to hear it. But I really will turn over a new leaf. At the same time, I can’t let you just blurt things out at work. If I go hungry, so do you. We’re in this together, you know. T: Yeah, OK. But you’re going to have to pay attention to me. We’ve got vacation time coming up, and I want to go someplace this year. Wine, women, song! So, you’re going to have to buy some clothes, and a ticket to someplace—I’d like the tropics! And, what’s more—and don’t be shocked—I want to get laid! E: It’s a deal. And you take the pressure off of me at work, or we’ll be on permanent vacation. T: That was the idea. I was going to force you to take a vacation of some kind. Just don’t back out on our deal. E: I won’t. T: Then it’s a deal.
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Often, conducting a dialogue with inner “opponents”—usually forms of the immature masculine energies—will defuse much of their power. What they—like all children—really want is to be noticed, honored, and taken seriously. And they have a right to be. Once they are honored, and their feelings validated, they no longer need to act out through our lives.
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In this next example of active imagination dialogue, the man’s Ego acted as a referee for two conflicting aspects of his personality, one showing the influence of the immature Hero energy and the other the Lover. The two archetypes were in conflict about how to treat the woman in the man’s life. The Hero wanted to conquer her, while the Lover wanted to just relate to her on a mutual basis. This is how the dialogue went. (E stands for Ego, H for Hero, and L for Lover.)
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E: All right, you two. We’ve got a problem. Gail wants to go to Brazil on a lark—without us. You—Hero—want to blast her for it and deliver an ultimatum: either drop the trip and come to Chicago to visit you instead, or forget the relationship. And you—Lover—just want to let her go and love her no matter what. So, we have to decide something here. H: She’s being selfish! As usual, she’s trying to overwhelm me with her impulsive desires. She doesn’t care about me. She’s dangerous. And if I’m going to be in a relationship with her, I’m going to have to lay down the law.
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L: Yes, but that takes all the fun out of it. She has to want to be with us, or it’s no good. I’ll love her no matter what she does. I’m so in love with her; if you try to control her, you’ll ruin what real love is. H: Don’t give me that romantic crap! Maybe you want to lie down and take this, but I can’t! How can you even think about living with such a selfish and impulsive woman? L: Because, selfish and impulsive or not, she’s the woman I love. H: But there’s no kind of security with this woman! L: There’s also no security in forcing someone to do what you want against their own wishes. Love loves just for the pure joy of loving. H: Well, maybe you can live with pure joy, but I can’t. I will defeat her willfulness or die trying. L: What will die is the relationship! E: OK. You’ve each presented your point of view. Now, we’ve got to come to some kind of agreement. It seems to me you’re both right, but both excessive. The Hero is right in setting reasonable limits on the relationship, and in recognizing our own limits, what we are comfortable with. Gail’s going to Brazil instead of coming to Chicago is beyond endurance. And the Lover is right in not wanting to blow off the relationship, and in wanting to respect Gail’s limits and her desires. But, Lover, you have to realize that human love does have limits. It is not limitless. Oh, the love may be. But what we can live with is not. So, let’s both set limits and love Gail at the same time.
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Because the Hero, under the influence of the Lover, was able to transform his fear and anger into courage and limit-setting—something Gail was actually looking for—Gail did not go to Brazil and is maturing in the relationship.
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Invocation A second technique we call invocation. This time we access the masculine archetypes in their fullness as positive energy forms.
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If active imagination dialogue is a conscious, focused way of talking to yourself, invocation is a conscious, focused way of calling up the images you want to see.
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Imaging deeply affects our moods, our attitudes, the way we look at things, and what we do. It is therefore important what thoughts and images we are invoking in our lives. Here’s how to do
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Imaging deeply affects our moods, our attitudes, the way we look at things, and what we do. It is therefore important what thoughts and images we are invoking in our lives. Here’s how to do focused imaging, or invocation:
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If possible, find a quiet place and time, clear your mind as best you can and relax—again, as best you can.
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Focus on an image that has both mental pictures and spoken words
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It is often useful to spend some time looking for images of the King, the Warrior, the Magician, the Lover.
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Use those images in your invocations. Let’s say you’ve found an image of a Roman emperor on his throne—a still from a movie, perhaps, or a painting. During this exercise, set that image in front of you. As you relax, talk to the image. Call up the King inside yourself. Seek to merge your deep unconscious with him. Realize that you (as an Ego) are different from him. In your imagination, make your Ego his servant. Feel his calm and his strength, his balanced benevolence toward you, his watching over you. Imagine yourself before his throne, having an audience with him. In effect, “pray” to him. Tell him that you need him, that you need his help—his power, his favor, his orderliness, his manliness. Count on his generosity and his kind disposition.
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A young man once entered therapy feeling very out of touch with his erotic side. He just couldn’t make a “chemical” connection with women. He wanted more than anything else to find a woman who would love him, a woman with whom he could have an exciting sex life, a woman he could marry. Part of the prescription in his therapy was to read all he could about the Greek god of Love, Eros, especially the Cupid (Eros) and Psyche story, and then to pray to Eros to help him to feel sensual and attractive. Shortly after he began his invocations of this image of the Lover, he went on a cruise. There he met, quite unexpectedly, a beautiful woman who felt that he was the most handsome, manly man she’d ever seen. She was experiencing the newfound Eros within him, which was filling his whole personality with its force and radiance. She even said to him, “You’re as handsome as a god!” Several nights out, they made passionate love in the sea, the most wonderful sexual experience of his life. The two stayed in touch with each other after the cruise, and within a year they were married, with a baby on the way. He attributes his new, more rewarding life to his imaging and invocations of the Lover. Another man found himself needled and attacked by several female co-workers for his self-confident, manly ways. He found strength in a crystal pyramid that he kept on his desk. (The pyramid form, as we have seen, is a symbol for the masculine Self.) Whenever he felt overwhelmed, he would take a sixty-second breather. He would turn to his pyramid and imagine it inside himself, in his chest. The waves of the emotional attacks on his manhood crashed against its sides, trying to fragment it. But the waves always fell back, eventually spending their fury. His work situation didn’t improve, but he was able to keep his balance, his calmness, and his centeredness most of the time, while he sought a better work environment. In the midst of a hectic day, this man could not fully ritualize his invocation. But many men, in the solitude of the late evening or the early morning, can.
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They sometimes even light candles and burn incense before an image of the archetype, honoring the archetype they are calling upon in an ancient, yet very appropriate, way.
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to focus an image of the energy form that the believer is invoking.
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Admiring Men Along the same lines is the related technique of admiration. Mature men need to admire other men, living and dead.
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If such men are not available to us personally, we need to read their biographies and become familiar with their words and deeds.
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It is precisely at our weak points, at those places within our psyches where we are possessed by the poles of an archetypal shadow system that we need to invoke, through active admiration, the strengths we lack but can appreciate in others.
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If we need more of the Warrior in our lives, we may come to know and appreciate the Warrior soul of the Egyptian pharaoh Ramses II, of the Zulu chief who threw himself and his men so courageously against the British in the nineteenth-century Zulu uprising, or of George Patton.
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If we need to more adequately access the King energy, we might study the life of Abraham Lincoln or Ho Chi Minh.
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If we need more Lover, we might admire the Lover energy of Leo Buscaglia.
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A shift in our inner accessing of the archetypes of the mature masculine will effect a change in the outer circumstances and opportunities of our lives.
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So while we are critically evaluating where we stand in relationship to the masculine energies, and while we are engaged in a dialogue with both positive and shadow aspects of them, we need also to be invoking the archetypes in their fullness in deliberate and focused ways.
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Acting “As If”
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It relies on the time-validated technology of the actor trying to “get into character” when he doesn’t feel the character. We call this acting “as if.”
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In this process, if you can’t feel the character portrayed in your script, you begin by acting like the character.
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You move and talk as this character would move and talk. You act “as if.”
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So you pick up your script; you read the king’s lines; you sit on the throne; and you act like the king.
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It’s quite odd, but if you need to access more of the Lover, for example, and sunsets don’t interest you, go out and really look at a sunset. Act as if you appreciate it.
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Notice the colors. Force yourself to see the beauty. Even say to yourself, “Oh, yes,
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If you need to access more of the Warrior, you might start by getting up from the television set some evening and forcing yourself out the door for a vigorous walk.
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You might take up a martial art. You might start an exercise class. You might force yourself to start on the unpaid bills piled on your desk. Get up. Move around! Start some action.
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If you need to access the Magician more consciously, the next time someone comes to you for your wisdom, act as if you really have some. Act as if you really do have something helpful and insightful to say. Force yourself to really listen to this person.
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- 150 | 2296-2298 | Thursday, 19 2019 16:21:30

Try to clear your mind of your own agenda and really focus on the problem he or she is presenting to you. Then, as thoughtfully as you can, give that person as much of your accumulated life’s wisdom as you can.
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- 150 | 2298-2299 | Thursday, 19 2019 16:21:35

A Final Word
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- 151 | 2305-2306 | Thursday, 19 2019 16:22:17

The enemy for both sexes is not the other sex but infantile grandiosity and the splitting of the Self that results from it.
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- 151 | 2306-2309 | Thursday, 19 2019 16:22:35

A final word of encouragement: any transformative process, like life itself, takes time and effort. We do our “homework” from the conscious side, and the unconscious, with its powerful resources, will, if approached in the right way, respond to our questions, our needs, and our woundedness in healing and generative ways. The struggle for maturity is a psychological, moral, and spiritual imperative from the Chinese Emperor within every man.
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- 151 | 2309-2310 | Thursday, 19 2019 16:22:44

Joseph Campbell, in his last book, The Inner Reaches of Outer Space, called for a worldwide awakening to a kind of initiation
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